Seriously! How do you meditate?

Seriously! How do you meditate?

I have talked to people of all walks of mindfulness and spirituality, and I often admit, I am not good at meditation.  I am not good at following someones’ “guided” meditation.  I find myself getting distracted, or editing the leader, or plain old, can’t get to the place that they are “guiding” me (my raging ADD doesn’t help either).

What truly amazed me, was when I honestly revealed this to so many REALLY wise, spiritual and trained people, they admitted the same thing.  They seemed almost releaved to admit this.  Instead of them asking what is wrong with me, or giving me some divine wisdom, they invariably smile , let down their guard and joyfully admit the same dilemma.  So I am not alone in my noisy head.

So what is one to do to find a mindful and peaceful mind, when that blabbering mind doesn’t quite want to follow directions?

The answer that I have found that works best is to not do guided meditations. Do your own, be your own guide, and fly solo.

The second tip is to take a inventory of your senses. sight, smell, sound, taste and touch.  Now, figure out which of your senses is strongest.  What can you sense, feel or imaging most vividly.  Are you a sight person, a smell person, a taste person, or do your ears lead you to your peaceful place.  For example, if your retreat place is a beach, what most vividly takes you to that place? Which sense makes you feel like you are there?  The sights of the sand? The sounds of the waves or birds? The taste of the salt-water?

Start with your easiest sense to use.  Enjoy that one, and emerge yourself there.  After that is set, feel free to go deeper with your other senses.

Stay there as long as your need or give yourself.

Its your place.  Is your mind, and its your time.

Sit back, relax and come back when you are ready.

If it can work with someone who is a constant mind editor, raving blabberhead, or multi-tasker, I sincerely hope it can work for you too.




  1. I will never forget when my Pathwork Transformation Program teacher admitted to me that she was “meditationally challenged.” I loved that expression. It gave me permission to not do it perfectly, and still seek to find the way meditation could work for me. It’s a worthwhile endeavor. Thanks for the great post!

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